Tips for Choosing Your Wedding Party


Choose your attendants carefully. Not every friend or relative makes the perfect attendant. You especially want your bridesmaids to be:
    RELIABLE - Show up for fittings when they are scheduled. Be on time for the rehearsal, photographs, and the ceremony!
    ACCOMMODATING – Able to wear a dress that may not be their “ideal choice” and NOT complain!
    HELPFUL - Willing to help out with any wedding details, errands, shopping or help putting together favors.
When choosing the members of your wedding party, pick friends and/or family members that you are close with NOW. You may want to ask an old college roommate that you haven't seen in a while, but don't feel obligated to include people just because "you were a bridesmaid in her wedding".

If you’re on a tight budget, try to LIMIT the number of attendants. This will reduce your costs in more ways than one! It will reduce your flower bill (bridesmaid’s bouquets can be expensive); the number of attendant gifts that you’ll have to purchase; the cost of a bridesmaids luncheon and rehearsal dinner.

You may want to look at bridesmaids gowns first and set a budget for the dress, shoes and other accessories that THEY would be required to pay for. Then, let your bridesmaids know a realistic budget of what they will need to pay to be a bridesmaid in your wedding BEFORE you ask them to accept. If you are asking bridesmaids who live out of town, be sure to take into consideration the travel and lodging expenses when figuring the projected “bridesmaid budget”.  

When choosing your wedding attendants - remember that you don't necessarily need to have the same number of bridesmaids and ushers. Bridesmaids can walk down the aisle together in pairs, alone or two bridesmaids can be escorted by one usher.  

How many ushers do I need? The rule of thumb is... there should be one usher for every 50 guests. The average wedding party for formal or semi-formal is four to six bridesmaids and ushers. Also, keep in mind a bride does not need as many bridesmaids as ushers.



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